Always a Bridesmaid, Never a Bridezilla

Sarah Houston - 2011 Spring Collection Event

2011-03-12T16:31:00.004-05:00

Hi All - I know I've been MIA . Blogging, unfortunately, has taken a back seat in my crazy schedule. However, you know how I love to support local businesses so I wanted to let those in the Tdot know about the Designer Weekend in Yorkville" event at the Sarah Houston salon. Sarah Houston specializes in designing vintage wedding dresses. Please click on the image above to visit the Sarah Houston website.

Hope you're all well!

-PB

Anne Barge Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-11-01T23:39:00.000-04:00

Blue By Enzoani Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-10-28T22:29:00.002-04:00

Only a few more days to check out the 2011 Blue By Enzoani Collection!

What do you call your MIL?

2010-10-25T19:53:00.005-04:00

Hopefully you don't call her Monster-in-Law like JLo's character did! The above question might be an odd question but people's answers to this question has always fascinated me. I've observed women and men call their mother-in-laws by their first name, by their last name (i.e. Mrs. Last Name) and just plain ol' Mom.

Out of those three monikers, plain ol' Mom is the most intimate. In my mind, my Mom is my mom. So I can't picture calling another woman Mom. However, I know in many cultures, calling one's mother-in-law "Mom" is tradition and to not address your MIL as Mom is a serious insult to the woman who birthed your partner. I often wonder how the 'real' mothers feel when they hear their children call another mom, Mom. Are they hurt? Is it OK because their children-in-law in turn call them Mom too?

So what about calling your MIL by her first name? I call the BF's mom by her first name as calling her "Mrs." seems way too formal. My own mother would probably express her disappointment if she heard me call the BF's mom by her first name since in our culture, calling an elder by their first name is a serious no-no. However, the BF's mom is fine with me calling her by her first name and if/when the BF get married, I'll likely keep calling her by her name.

Finally, the "Mrs. Lastname" option. This seems awfully formal to me. It seems to infer a distant relationship. With that being said, there is a certain respect that goes with addressing someone by their last name. If you called your MIL "Mrs." before marraige and then switched, what did you switch to and how long did it take you to switch?

See? I told you this topic fascinates me!

What do you call your MIL? Was this something you and the finance discussed before getting hitched?

*This question can also be "What do you call your FIL?" but for simplicity's sake, I'll stick to discussing MILs.

Oscar de la Renta Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-10-20T21:25:00.000-04:00

Coming Soon to Sash & Bustle!

2010-10-11T20:22:00.007-04:00

Hope my fellow Canadians had a yummy and relaxing Thanksgiving. That's right, us Canadians celebrate Thanksgiving in early October (2nd Monday to be exact, same day as Columbus Day). Why the early Thanksgiving you ask? Well, it coincides with the end of the harvest season (we are a little bit more north) and the holiday is to give thanks for the bountiful crops. Whereas, according to trusty ol' Wikipedia, the American Thanksgiving was established by the Pilgrims to thank God for surviving their first brutal winter. When I asked the BF if we celebrate both when we're in the same household.....he says he's happy to have two occasions to eat turkey! ;)

I've mentioned Sash & Bustle - Toronto's premiere modern bridal loft - many times before. I love how Cynthia Martyn has introduced Toronto to the same 'alternative' gown designers (e.g. Stephanie James) and accessories designers (e.g. Paloma's Nest) that have won over so many American brides. Well, Cynthia has done it again. She recently announced that Sash & Bustle will be carrying Carol Hannah (yes, from Project Runaway!) wedding gowns and hair adornments from Twigs & Honey. So exciting. Carol Hannah is expected to arrive October 30th. An exact arrival time have yet to be announced for Twigs & Honey so make sure you check the Sash & Bustle blog frequently!

Below are my favourites from each collection.

A Beautiful Wedding by KGM Weddings

2010-10-04T08:00:00.000-04:00

This lovely outdoor Malibu wedding by LA based wedding planner extraordinaire, Krista Malinin for Amber Events (Krista is also a friend of mine!) was recently featured on Style Me Pretty. How stunning are these photos? Who knew there was a venue in Malibu that had zebras!?!

Krista (she's in the middle in the below pic) described Saddlerock Ranch as "a rustic venue, located in the Santa Monica Mountains of Malibu. Exotic animals (like horses, buffalo, camels, zebras, llamas, sheep, and peacocks) roam the 1,000 acre farm. The vineyard setting, where Melody and Michael exchanged their vows, is secluded and stunning. It created a breathtaking backdrop to an emotional ceremony and fun-loving reception."

To see more from this rustic wedding as photographed by Suthi Picotte, visit Style Me Pretty. To read Krista's post Q & A with the bride and groom, visit Krista's blog.

Congratulations to Krista on planning such a gorgeous wedding and being featured on SMP.

Ritche Fall Bridal Sale - Toronto

2010-10-02T10:16:00.001-04:00

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Jenny Packham Bridal Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-09-28T09:00:00.002-04:00

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Honey My Heart Open for Business!

2010-09-27T09:00:00.000-04:00

Hope you all had wonderful weekends! The BF went back to LA so I spent most of the weekend being mopey, and doing the summer-fall/winter wardrobe switcheroo. Boo.

As some of you may know, the incredibly talented honey my heart recently opened her Esty stor e. honey has been wowing her readers with her amazing craftiness since the days of planning her beautiful Santa Barbara wedding. Check out her cute table cards & numbers here.

honey's Esty store contains some fabulous jewelery - perfect for gifts.

I have always adored honey's paper goodies so I'm happy to see that she's also selling her one of a kind cards.

What are you waiting for? Go check it out!

Follow honey my heart on twitter and Facebook so you can see the latest projects she's working on!

Good luck honey my heart!

Carolina Herrera Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-09-22T09:00:00.000-04:00

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A Bride's Shiny Thank You

2010-09-21T19:50:00.008-04:00

Hi ya! How are you? Sorry for the sporadic blogging...blogging seems to have taken a back seat lately. I've been super busy with work and our condo board. And to be honest, having the BF here for the summer has kept me quite busy! Trying to spend quality time with one another after a long day of work while balancing the social calendar with our friends is no easy feat.

Anyways, I wanted to show you the bridesmaid's gift I received from C. a couple weeks ago. Isn't it pretty? I adore it. This bracelet has been my go-to bracelet for the last week - Thank you C.!!

For ideas on bridesmaids' (and maybe groomsmen) gifts, check out Swarovski. Trust me, your bridesmaids will thank you.

What is your favorite bridesmaid's gift? What's your worst?

Pearl Bridal House Sale -GTA

2010-09-15T22:09:00.003-04:00

Going wedding dress shopping this weekend? Well, you're in luck! Pearl Bridal House is having a two-day sale this weekend.

WHERE?
76 Lakeshore Rd. East
Mississauga, ON L5G 1E1
905.278.5407
hello@pearlbridalhouse.com
www.pearlbridalhouse.com

C is Married!

2010-09-13T12:27:00.004-04:00

I think I've finally recovered from C's wedding on Saturday. It was a long day yet it went by so fast. I'm sure you brides and bridesmaids out there understand what I'm talking about. You wake up so early and can't even imagine lasting past 8pm, and the next thing you know it's 2:30am. Pure adrenaline.

The weather was gorgeous - sunny but not too hot. The day went pretty smoothly. The Catholic ceremony was traditional, however it lasted maybe 30-45 mins . It was the first time that I actually teared up during a wedding ceremony. Though C and A were saying traditional vows, there was something so touching about how they looked at each other. Very genuine. I think I got teary eyed because I briefly caught a glimpse of C, the 14 year teenager I met in high school in computer studies class, and then realized that teen-aged girl was now a gorgeous bride.

Above is a shot of C's Pronovias dress before she put it on. It's probably the same view C has when she woke up Saturday morning.

Congrats C & A!

September 11th

2010-09-10T16:16:00.003-04:00

Tomorrow my dear friend C. is getting married! It’s going to be a wonderful and joyous day for C. her soon-to-be husband, and their family and friends. However, for many people, tomorrow will mark a day of mourning and reflection. Especially if one has a personal connection to the September 11th attacks. When I mention to my American friends and family that I am attending a wedding tomorrow, they raise an eyebrow. My response is that for many Canadians and nationals outside of the

U.S.

, September 11th holds no personal significance. While they acknowledge the tragedy that occurred on that day and sympathize with those who lost loved ones, the day is no different than any other day of remembrance, e.g. Memorial Day, Remembrance Day.

Some would argue that the attacks were an attack on the Western world not just the U.S. A lot of people stated when I asked whether they would marry on September 11 or any other day of memorial stated they just wouldn’t want the “bad karma” or “bad joo joo.” However, some people responded that if you took out every day of remembrance or bad event anniversary in the calendar, there would be very few days left to commemorate a marriage. Also, as time goes on, such bad event anniversaries tend to lose their taboo – e.g. I’m pretty sure couples have no issue with December 7, the anniversary of the attack on Pearl Harbour.

September 11 is significant to me as I remember the frantic hours I spent trying to find my relatives in NYC and praying for their safety. Combined this with the BF being American, it’s highly doubtful we would pick September 11 as a wedding date if it landed on a weekend.

For those of you who were personally affected by the September 11 attacks, my thoughts are with you.

Look What I Made....

2010-09-09T21:42:00.001-04:00

As you may know, my friend C. is getting married this Saturday! Her birthday was a few weeks ago and I gifted her this bridal fascinator that I had made.

The flower, pearl sprigs and feathers were purchased from Sussman's Bridal Supplies in Toronto (Queen & Bathurst).

Special thanks to the BF who help me design it ("The feathers should stick out like this") and let me use his head as a 'live' mannequin head.

If C. ends up wearing it for the reception, I'll post pics!

What do you think? Should I quit my day job? ;)

Vera Wang Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-09-09T09:00:00.000-04:00

WHEN?
Thursday, September 23rd to Saturday, September 25th

WHERE?

Vera Wang Bridal Salon at Hugo Nicholson
38 Avenue Rd
Toronto, Ontario M5R2G2
416-927-9094
www.hugonicholson.com

To see the latest Vera Wang Bridal collection, visit www.verawang.com.

Reem Acra Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-09-08T09:00:00.000-04:00

WHEN?
Friday, September 17 & Saturday, September 18th by appointment

WHERE?
White Toronto (www.whitetoronto.com)
19 Hazelton Avenue, Toronto, ON. M5R 2E1
Tel: 416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see the latest Reem Acra Bridal collection, visit www.reemacra.com

Ines di Santo Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-09-06T21:09:00.002-04:00

WHEN?
Friday, September 10th to Saturday, September 11th

WHERE?
Veronica Di Santo Atelier - www.veronicadisanto.com
4040 Steeles Ave West
Suites 14 & 15
Woodbridge
905.264.5518
email: info@veronicadisanto.com.
*FYI -Veronica is Ines' daughter.

To see more from the Ines Di Santo collection, visit www.inesdisanto.com.

Monique Lhuillier Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-09-01T14:11:00.000-04:00

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Finally!

2010-08-31T13:52:00.007-04:00

Banana Republic, Gap and Old Navy have finally launched online Canadian stores! Yay - no more custom duties and so-called international shipping fees! Note that the pricing in the Canadian store is more expensive than pricing in the US store but on par with the pricing in Canadian retail stores*. Standard shipping costs are $8 per shipment - not bad at all. Happy online shopping!

*For those of you who wonder why items from US retail chains are always marked up in Canada, here's a quickie explanation - Canada has way less people per capita than the US which means less people buying, less a business can rely on volume sales. Also, since our country is so geographically large, it costs more to ship around our nation. Finally, with the Canadian dollar doing so well, it costs US businesses more to do business in Canada.

Vote for Carlsberg's Big Wedding Bash Couples

2010-08-20T08:58:00.008-04:00

Remember when I wrote about Carlsberg's Big Wedding Bash contest? Well, two couples contacted me after that post and asked if I would vote for them. So now I'm encouraging you to vote for them!

Couple #1 - Jessica & Mike

Jessica & Mike get props for making this "Constable Carlsberg" video. To read their story and cast them your vote, click here.

Couple #2 - Tim & Rebecca

Tim & Rebecca are avid TFC fans (Go Reds!) who started out long-distance. To read their story and cast them your vote, click here.

Good luck to both couples in winning the $100,000 wedding!

Congratulations Bi-Coastal Bride!

2010-08-14T19:09:00.003-04:00

Today is Tamar's, aka Bi-Coastal Bride, wedding day. (Remember her awesome Scratch n' Save-the-Dates?) Hope you have a wonderful day with your friends and family. A big thanks to A Hot Pink Petticoat for introducing us to you!

7 Dresses (Not Quite 27)

2010-08-09T23:17:00.006-04:00

What do you think? This is my 7th bridesmaid dress. (For those of you counting, yes, this is my 8th bridesmaid stint but I did not attend one of the weddings as I had my sister's wedding on the same day, so no corresponding dress.) The dress is a Sophia Tolli dress #11030 in aqua with a pale gold sash (looks like a darker cream with a slight gold tint in person). As you can see, I need to shorten it for my 5"1 body. It's a tad loose on me but since it has a corset back, I'm going to do without getting it taken in on the sides. The dress also comes with a matching shawl, and straps. I'll likely use the straps since I can't stand strapless dresses - I'm always constantly pulling dresses up!

For those in the GTA, we purchased our dresses at Izabella Bridal Boutique. I had a pleasant experience there. The staff are young, friendly and helpful. They measured me twice and let me look at the size chart to determine what size I should order (I've been to some places that didn't let me see the size chart and then insisted that I order the way too large size). Also, since C., the bride, had 6 bridesmaids, Izabella's gave us a discount so the dresses ended up being CDN $200 each. Not bad for a designer bridesmaid dress. I hoping to shorten the dress myself so $200 might be the final cost for me. (Professional bridesmaids - I highly recommend you learn how to sew - comes in handy!)

And for those of you wondering - no, I will not be wearing this one again. ;) It's very pretty but obviously very bridesmaid-y.

Carlsberg's Big Wedding Bash Contest

2010-08-04T13:43:00.002-04:00

Just got engaged? Don't want to plan a wedding? Don't have funds for a wedding? Well, if you live in Ontario, you will want to enter this contest. Carlsberg is giving away a $100,000 wedding to one lucky couple. The deadline is August 20, 2010. Before you enter, make sure you read the rules & regs as there are some stipulations. For example, if you win, you must get married on October 1, 2010 at Toronto's Capitol Theater.

Good luck! And if you enter, let me know so I can vote for your story!

30% off at BR, Old Navy & The Gap

2010-07-27T10:45:00.000-04:00

Mikaella Trunk Show

2010-07-20T01:22:00.004-04:00

Since 1937, Paloma Blanca has been designing and manufacturing wedding gowns right here in Toronto. As mentioned previously, Mikaella is Paloma Blanca's budget savvy sister! Check out the Mikaella trunk show at Ritché.

WHEN?
Wednesday, July 21 to Wednesday, July 28

WHERE?
Ritché Bridal

1662 Avenue Road
Toronto, Ontario
M5M 3Y1
www.ritchebridal.com
416.789.4378
Call to make an appointment.

To see more dresses visit www.mikaellabridal.com

FREE Shipping - J.Crew

2010-07-19T08:57:00.005-04:00

For those of you contemplating J.Crew wedding gowns or bridesmaids dresses, maybe this will help you make the final decision.

Includes shipping to Canada! (Remember, if you can ship to a US address, you can avoid the custom duties).

The Break that turned into a Sabbatical....

2010-07-13T11:41:00.005-04:00

Remember me? The Professional Bridesmaid? Well, looks like I've turned into a lazy professional bridesmaid. Forgive me. Hope you're all enjoying the summer. The BF has been here for a month and I LOVE it! Especially since he cleans and bbqs! I hope to be back soon. I've become inspired again since my good friend Christine recently got engaged. It's so exciting. Anyways, for those of you in the Toronto area, check out this bridesmaid promotion:

Mo's Getting Married!

2010-06-27T13:51:00.003-04:00

My dear blog bestie/West Coast twin Mo, Pink Argyle, is counting down just a few more sleeps until her big day. Incredible. I remember 'meeting' Mo in 2008, few months after she started her blog, and then early 2009, she scored her awesome Sarah Perlis ring (The Boy has good taste!). Mo - Good luck in the next few days. I'll be cheering you all the way to the altar!

Check out Mo's last few days of planning, thoughts, ideas etc. here .

Still Here....

2010-06-11T21:23:00.003-04:00

but still on blogger hiatus. Work owns me lately. Sigh. Something I'm looking forward to...the BF coming to Toronto for 3 months. The ultimate test as the longest we've spent together in the same city is one month. Wish us luck. ;)

Very Married posted a link to an article about one female law firm partner advising recent woman law grads to not focus on having it all and "get real about balance." The article itself isn't that interesting, however, the comments in response to the article (and on Very Married's blog) are. Go read and tell me what you think.

Thanks for still checking in.

xo

Wedding Shower on Mother's Day?

2010-05-09T14:51:00.002-04:00

Happy Mother's Day to my fabulous mommy and to all of you who are being honoured today!

My friend KT is attending a wedding shower tea this afternoon. Poor scheduling by the host, no? Luckily, KT's mother was invited too. I wonder how many guests will show up.

What would you do?

1) Politely decline and spend the day with the woman who makes me soup when I'm sick.

2) Attend the shower, and spend time with my mother before/after the shower.

Still taking a break.....

2010-05-03T21:16:00.001-04:00

but still stalking all your lovely blogs!

Thanks for being patient!

Time to Regroup

2010-04-14T09:55:00.003-04:00

As you've noticed, I've been pretty amiss the last few months. Time for me to regroup, refocus, come up with some new content and hopefully introduce you to some fabulous Canadian vendors. I promise I won't be gone too long! In the meantime, here are two Canadian wedding blogs that recently launched - check them out!

Bride Scouts - They recently did a great feature on Sash & Bustle.

Toronto Wedding Society

Also, The Last Forty Percent is hosting contest - you can win a $50.00 Starbucks card! That's a lot of lattes.

A Week in Pictures

2010-04-07T20:50:00.010-04:00

I'm back! And unfortunately, back to reality. Hope you all had a wonderful Easter. I spent mine at the BF's parents' eating way too many schnitzels. Yummy. Here are a few photos that sum up my week in LA and Vegas.

View of LA from Yamashiro

The food at Yamashiro is so delicious. And you can't beat the view. The restaurant itself is a beautiful Pagoda-like mansion which houses a lovely Japanese garden. Good news for you potential brides out there who want an Asian flair to your nuptials - Yamashiro is available for weddings.

Ready to hit Vegas!

How oddly fascinating is this flower vending machine at the Vegas airport?
(It was right beside the restrooms.)

The view from our Caesar Palace's hotel room.

Me getting ready for some poolside fun while the BF works.

Me tanning at Garden of Gods Pool complex

Hello Vegas!

I won $45 at the Sex & the City slot machine!

Me peering into Jimmy Choo, looking at the goodies longingly.

Date night at Mario Batali's Carnevino

The best filet mignon EVER.

One of the best things in life - Room Service!

Back in LA, shopping on my favourite street. (3rd street promenade)

Picked up some Easter goodies from the best cupcake place in LA.

Trying the new mango froyo at Pinkberry.

Frugal Fridays - Easter Edition

2010-04-02T17:50:00.005-04:00

Happy Easter! LA and Vegas have been very good to me the last week. I can't believe I have to go home soon. Sigh. The BF and I just got back from Third Street Promenade. I did some damage. There are too many good sales out there! Here are a few that are happening this Easter weekend. Enjoy!

Use Code EVE40

This is a one time use code - first come, first served!

Ann Taylor

White Toronto - Marchesa Trunk Show

L.A. Bound.

2010-03-26T07:57:00.002-04:00

I know I owe you "Being a Bridesmaid Part II - What a Bridesmaid Needs to Know." Forgive me, it's just been such a crazy week! I've been trying to get everything done before I leave on vacation next week. Yep, I'm off to the west coast home with a little jaunt to Sin City! I'm so excited. I will try to post Part II this weekend. Have fabulous weekend!

Frugal Fridays

2010-03-24T23:27:00.013-04:00

Pearl Bridal House Designer Sample Sale - March 28th by appointment

DSG Photography Portrait Special - Ends March 31st

Felichia Bridal Spring Sample Sale - Starts March 29th

Sash & Bustle Coren Moore Promotion

Watters Trunk Show

WHEN?
Saturday, March 27th by appointment

WHERE?
Pearl Bridal House
76 Lakeshore Rd. East
Mississauga, ON L5G 1E1
905.278.5407
hello@pearlbridalhouse.com
www.pearlbridalhouse.com

To see more from the Watters collection, visit www.watters.com.

Oscar de la Renta Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-03-24T23:13:00.003-04:00

WHEN?
Friday, March 26 - Saturday, March 27

WHERE?
White
19 Hazelton Ave.
Toronto, ON Canada
416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto

www.whitetoronto.com

To see more of the Oscar de la Renta collection, visit www.oscardelarenta.com.

Amsale Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-03-23T22:17:00.001-04:00

I love this gold tone gown. It would be perfect for an old Hollywood glam wedding. To see this gown and others from Amsale, check out the trunk show this weekend!

WHEN?
Friday, March 26, 2010: 10:00am-8:00pm
Saturday, March 27, 2010: 10:00am-6:00pm

WHERE?
Dina Alonzi Bridal

3020 Bloor Street West (At Royal York & Bloor)
Toronto, Ontario
(416) 236-0270
www.dinaalonzibridal.com
email: info@dinaalonzibridal.com

To see more of the Amsale bridal collection, visit www.amsale.com

Being a Bridesmaid Part I - What a Bride Needs to Know

2010-03-21T20:37:00.000-04:00

As you all know, I've been a maid of honour 3 times and a bridesmaid four times (my fifth stint rolls around this September!). When people find out the number of weddings I've been a part of, some tease that that I'm like Katherine Heigl in "27 dresses" and ask what do I do with all those dresses! Some people, usually "professional bridesmaids" like myself, roll their eyes and give me an comforting pat and say, "Wow. I feel for you." And once in a blue moon, a bride or groom will ask me for my opinion or advice, which is interesting because I use to expect this to happen more often. However, I've come to realize, brides and grooms don't want advice from experienced wedding attendants; they want advice from fellow brides and grooms. After all, it's always best to learn from those who have "been there, done that."

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Many weddings ago, I realized that my knowledge of weddings often surpassed my brides', and that many brides have never been in a wedding before their own weddings. My experience has taught me to: consider having the ceremony and reception in the same venues to save on transportation costs, hire a day-of-coordinator for peace of mind, bring snacks and water for the wedding party, tuck a sewing kit in my purse, wear a button-down/loose top for hair and makeup, give the photographer a schedule & list of 'must' photos, consider not having a traditional wedding party head table so your bridesmaids & groomsmen can sit with their significant other or friends.... and the list goes on. I've witnessed many snafus, surprises, blessings in disguise, and learned how to (or not to) deal with them. Moreover, I've been lucky enough to see which elements in a wedding actually turn out as beautiful as they are planned on paper. Brides and grooms don't often understand the depth of my knowledge. Not that I blame them as it's one thing to be in a wedding and quite other to actually plan one. And there's something to be said about venturing together, as an engaged couple, into the blissful, sometimes dark world of wedding planning and making it your own though your own discoveries and mistakes. (Not for me though. I'm way too Type A. I can spend hours researching an item before I purchase it!) Thus, I only provide advice when asked or provide very general help in the way of internet links or vendor recommendations. I may have the title of "professional bridesmaid" but I don't want to add "bossy" to the title! With that being said, there is one area of weddings that I am pretty vocal about - the role of the bridesmaid (for purposes of this post, maid of honour is included in that label). So listen up, brides, 'cuz I have a few things to say!

What Does it Mean to Ask a Friend to be Your Bridesmaid?

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Congratulations! You're engaged. You probably called your families first, and then squealed the news to your girlfriends. Maybe even sent them a mobile pic of the ring. I love getting that call. It's such a thrill to hear that excitement and happiness in your friend's voice. You may have already chosen your bridesmaids (hell, you may have picked them out even before you picked out the guy!). After all, you can't imagine not getting married without these girls who have stuck by you thick and thin. Interestingly enough, in early Roman times, according to Dessy's "A Bride's Guide to Bridesmaids", bridesmaids served as 'protectors' by donning similar dresses and intervening if any vengeful suitors or thugs tried to steal the dowry or harm the bride. It's also thought that the Western concept of bridesmaids stemmed from later Roman law which required 10 witnesses at a wedding in order to ward off "evil spirits" that may be in attendance. Although bridesmaids no longer have to fend off thugs or unwanted guests, they still continue to be a great source of support for brides during the whole wedding process. Before you pick out those girls who will stand by your side for the next year or so, keep in mind what it means to ask a friend to be a bridesmaid.

1. You're Asking Her to Financially Invest in Your Wedding.

This may seem harsh but it's true. In one of my first blog posts, I noted that I had on average spent $1255 on each wedding I had been in. That's no small chuck of change. Keep in mind the following costs your bridesmaid is incurring for your wedding:

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- Costs associated with a dress (on average between $200-$400) that they'll likely won't wear again. i.e. Your bridesmaids are purchasing the dress solely to wear it in your wedding. As much as you would like to think they will wear the floor length, coral gown again you so carefully picked out, they won't. Case in point - I've only worn two bridesmaid dresses more than once. One of them was a black dress that I had picked out because the bride let us wear anything we wanted as long as it was black. The other dress I wore again because I had spent so much on it that I felt the need to get more use out of it! Don't forget that alterations can range from $30-$100.

-Costs associated with bridesmaid accessories and shoes

-Costs associated with organizing, hosting and attending your bridal shower(s)

- Costs associated with organizing, hosting and attending your stagette (travel and hotel costs if these events are out of town)

- Costs associated with the wedding day: hair, makeup, nails, travel and hotel costs, and the wedding gift

2. You're Asking Her to Invest Her Free Time in Your Wedding.

The older I get, the less time I seem to have. The weekends fly by way too fast and often times, it's difficult to find a spare moment. In other words, my time is precious and I treasure any spare time I have. I'm sure you feel the same. When you're planning a wedding, your spare time likely disappears for at least a year. Kind of sucks, right? Well, keep that in mind when your bridesmaids are participating in wedding-related activities. Bridesmaids generally devote their time to the following duties:

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-pick out, and try on bridesmaid dresses
-attend fittings
-organize and attend the bridal shower(s) and stagette (which may require your bridesmaids to take days off from work if the events are out of town)
-attend the rehearsal
-participating in the big day

Things to Consider

Now you might think I must have had some bad experiences as a bridesmaid in order to sum up my experiences as "money and time" sucks. Sure, I have some war wounds but in general, I've had a blast being a part of so many friends' special days. The purpose of this post is not to chastise brides for being "bridezillas" but to ask them to put themselves in their bridesmaids' shoes. After all, every bride wants their friends to feel honoured to be part of their wedding. At the same time, no bride wants their friends calling her "bridezilla" behind their backs. Here are some things to consider when it comes to asking your bridesmaids to participate in your wedding:

It's not their big day. It is yours and your fiance's/fiancee's; and while your friends are no undoubtedly ecstatic for you and are honoured to be part of your big day, it is simply not their big day. Your friends have their own priorities. They even may be in other weddings. Hell, they might be even planning their own wedding! So while you are spending all your spare time and hard-earned money on your big day, you can't expect your friends to do the same. Think about it - would you spend $1000 on attending a friend's graduation ceremony and reception (a equally big day in your friend's life)? When framed this way, its seems a bit excessive right?

Your friend may not want her back scratched. Many brides wash away the guilt of asking their friends to spend copious amounts of money and time on their weddings by proclaiming, "I'll be doing the same thing for her." This isn't necessarily true as not all brides choose to have bridesmaids. Nor do all brides want to ask the same girls they served as bridesmaids for to return the favour. If I ask all those girls who had asked me to a bridesmaids, I would have eight bridesmaids rights off the bat (and I would so make them wear their own bridesmaid dress they made me wear!!). In other words, don't bank on your friend 'returning the favour.'

Be mindful of your friends' finances. Unfortunately, people are still struggling in today's economy. If you have a friend who is having trouble making ends meet, you may want to give her the option of being in your wedding. Explain to her the possible costs, how you'll do your best to keep costs down, and then leave the decision up to her. If she says no, then perhaps you can find another way for her be involved (e.g. she could do a reading during the ceremony). Obviously, you will be disappointed that she can't be a bridesmaid but just remember at the end of the day she's still a friend and she will be at your wedding. (Aside: I once had a bride guilt me into being a bridesmaid even though I had already declined due to time and money constraints. I gave in because if it meant that so much to her, I felt I should do it. Did I make the right choice?)

Keep costs down. Believe or not, this is easier than you think. For instance, there are a ton of beautiful bridesmaid dresses out there that are under $150. I once suggested a cheaper alternative to a bride and she remarked, "It's poorly made." My thinking is that if the dress is only going to be worn once, then it likely doesn't have to be well made. It can even from, gasp, Target. Listen, you know that I'm a fan of Vera, Melissa, Jim like any other girl but at the end of the day, the dress just needs to look good on the day of, right? If you are able to, think about contributing some money to the dresses. After all, it is your big day. In some cultures, the bride and groom pay for all costs related to their attendants being in their wedding. Makes a bit more sense if you ask me. However, since revolting against the long established Western tradition of bridesmaids footing most of the costs is not option for most, do your best to keep costs down. My number one tip? Choose a colour and let your bridesmaids choose their own dresses in that colour. If the dress is something very important to you, then scrimp somewhere else for your bridesmaids. For more cost-cutting tips, click here.

It's your big day not year. The BF came up with this saying. He is constantly astonished by the number of duties involved with being a bridesmaid. He frequently comments on how different it is from being a groomsmen. As he states, "You show up for a tux/suit fitting, organize a stag, and show up for the wedding. Three days, the end." Usually these three days happen in the same month! For us ladies, it's a bit more time consuming (and a lot more fun!) than that. There can be multiple fittings and multiple showers. Understand from the outset that not all of your bridesmaids will be able to attend ALL your events - your girls have separate lives which entails other obligations. It may be helpful to outline to your bridesmaids from the outset which events are important to you so they can schedule accordingly.

Weddings Last One Day...

.....while friendships can last a lifetime. I once heard a story about a girl turning down a bridesmaid gig because she was unemployed. She apparently was honest with the bride and expressed her regret. The bride snapped back, "I guess you won't be attending the wedding at all." Now this is obviously an extreme but unfortunately brides do lose sight of the bigger picture. At the end of the day, you choose your friends to be part of your wedding because you cherish them and can't picture being married without them by your side. Keep the above points in mind and you'll have supportive, happy, proud and glowing friends for life by your side on your wedding day.

The Last Forty Percent

Coming up later in the week......

Being a Bridesmaid Part II - What a Bridesmaid Needs to Know

Frugal Friday

2010-03-19T00:00:00.001-04:00

1) The Ann Taylor Spring Style Event

Save 25% on 2 full priced-items or 40$ on 3 or more full-priced items

This is my first purchase from Ann Taylor! I know, weird. We don't have Ann Taylor here in Canada so I don't have many opportunities to peruse her stuff. Luckily for me, I have a computer and the BF's mailing address! Check out my purchases, all 40% off!

Chiffon Trim Tank - $38

cami -$36; panty -$18

2) Don't forget the 30% off J.Crew dresses sale ends today!

3) Did you use your Give & Get 30% off coupon at Banana Republic, Gap or Old Navy yet?

Click here for the US version.
Click here for the Canadian version.

4) Endless.com 30% off flats + free shipping - Today only!!

5) Contests!!

Make sure you enter the following giveaways hosted by my fellow bloggers:

The Alternative Wife's Mario Badescu Skin care Giveaway

The Bowie Bride's Camera Renter Giveaway

Chic 'n Cheap Living Bumble and Bumble Fancy Hair Products Giveaway

Have a fabulous weekend!

Frugal F(th)ursday!

2010-03-18T00:00:00.004-04:00

Enjoy! And tell me what you buy!

Click here for the US version.

Click here for the Canadian version.

I Wish I Was a Little Taller....

2010-03-17T09:44:00.003-04:00

....so I could pull off this lovely Delphinia gown from J.Crew. Sigh. Anyways, if you haven't heard, J.Crew have marked all their dresses 20% off until midnight Friday. For those on the hunt for an alternative bridal gown or for bridesmaids dresses, you must check it out.

Too Busy to Blog.

2010-03-16T22:25:00.004-04:00

Sad but true. Sigh. 2010 so far has been such a busy blur. My apologies for not writing more substantial posts but many thanks for keeping me entertained with yours!

Saw this lovely Vancouver beach/island wedding on Style Me Pretty, check it out when you have a moment. Don't you love when blogs feature weddings in your neck of the woods? They get the creative juices weddings for your own wedding or your friends' weddings. It's also a great way to discover your local wedding vendors. Which wedding blog is your fave?

White Album Weddings via Style Me Pretty

Monique Lhuillier Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-03-14T12:00:00.000-04:00

WHEN?
Friday, March 19th & Saturday, March 20st

WHERE?
White Toronto (www.whitetoronto.com)
19 Hazelton Avenue, Toronto, ON. M5R 2E1
Tel: 416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see the latest Monique Lhuillier Bridal collection, visit www.moniquelhuillier.com

Happy Friday!

2010-03-12T12:37:00.004-05:00

For those are you who haven't discovered the guilty pleasure of Gilt Group (I discovered it via Chic 'n Cheap Living), you must! Especially this weekend since Gilt is hosting a Wedding Weekend. Check it out if you're getting married or will be in a wedding for some fabulous deals. You need an invite from a Gilt Group member in order to join so head on over to Chic 'n Cheap's blog as you can grab the invite from her (left column, scroll down).

Anne Bowen, Jenny Lee Trunk Shows - Toronto

2010-03-11T00:00:00.000-05:00

White Toronto will be hosting two bridal trunk shows this weekend: Anne Bowen and Jenny Lee.

via Anne Bowen

via Jenny Lee

WHEN?
Friday, March 12th & Saturday, March 13th by appointment

WHERE?
White Toronto (www.whitetoronto.com)
19 Hazelton Avenue, Toronto, ON. M5R 2E1
Tel: 416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see the latest Anne Bowen collection, visit www.annebowen.com.

To see the latest Jenny Lee collection, visit www.jennyleebridal.com.

A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway - Winner

2010-03-10T17:45:00.005-05:00

And the Winner is.....Colleen from Forty Something Bride!

Thank you to everyone who entered and spread the word. A big thank you to Alison for sponsoring this awesome giveaway! To find out more about A Hot Pink Petticoat's event planning services, click here. For those of you not familiar with A Hot Pink Petticoat, be sure to check out its blogger bride-in-residence, Bi-Coastal Bride, who's planning a wedding in Toronto from LA with the help of A Hot Pink Petticoat.

Vera Wang Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-03-09T09:00:00.000-05:00

WHEN?
Thursday, March 11th to Saturday, March 13th

WHERE?

Vera Wang Bridal Salon at Hugo Nicholson
38 Avenue Rd
Toronto, Ontario M5R2G2
416-927-9094
www.hugonicholson.com

To see the latest Vera Wang Bridal collection, visit www.verawang.com.

*Feel free to bring me along!!!

Oscar Fashion Hits and Misses

2010-03-08T09:00:00.000-05:00

Happy Monday! Did you watch the Oscars last night? Or should I say, did you check out the gowns last night?! :) Here are my picks for best dressed and worst dressed.

Best Dressed

Diane Kruger can do no wrong in my eyes and last night was no exception. I love this Chanel halter gown with black ribbon accents. It reminds me a lot of Vera Wang's current bridal collection.

Fellow Canadian Rachel McAdams donned this lovely Elie Saab pastel print gown. It's so fun and flirty.

Worst Dressed

Charlize Theron, who is so gorgeous, surprised me with this Dior gown. I just don't get the flower patches on the bust! They're so distracting.

The BF said it best when he remarked, "JLo's dress looks it was made out of bubble wrap." Jennifer Lopez look a bit too bridal for my liking especially she's usually raising the bar on awards show fashion (remember that Grammys dress??!).

What were your picks for best dressed and worst dressed? What did you think of the show itself?

Psst....

2010-03-07T17:28:00.003-05:00

did you enter A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway yet??!!

Hope you are all having a great Sunday.

Two More Wedding Trunk Shows!

2010-03-05T11:17:00.009-05:00

Sorry for the late notice on these! Enjoy your weekend. It's going to be unseasonably warm and spring-like in Toronto. I'm excited to get some vitamin D!!

Modern Trousseau

WHEN?
Saturday, March 6 & Sunday, March 7

WHERE?
Felichia Bridal
2587 Yonge St.
Toronto, Ontario Canada
M4P 2J1
647 - 350 - 5559
email: info@felichia.com
www.felichia.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see more from the Modern Trousseau collection, visit www.moderntrousseau.com.

Ines di Santo

WHEN?
Friday, March 5th to Saturday, March 6th

WHERE?
Veronica Di Santo Atelier - www.veronicadisanto.com
4040 Steeles Ave West
Suites 14 & 15
Woodbridge
905.264.5518
email: info@veronicadisanto.com.
*FYI -Veronica is Ines' daughter.

To see more from the Ines Di Santo collection, visit www.inesdisanto.com.

DSG Photography March Portrait Special

2010-03-04T19:40:00.014-05:00

For the month of March, book a Portrait, Engagement, Maternity or Family session with Toronto based DSG Photography and receive 2 FREE 8x10's & 2 FREE 4x6's and a 20% on all print orders.

Each session includes 1 location, an online gallery of proofs, 2 Free 8x10's & 2 Free 4x6's. All for the low cost of CDN $200 (+ applicable taxes).

Darren, owner of DSG Photography, shot my sister's wedding and did an amazing job. I highly recommend him. For more information, visit DSG Photography's site or email Darren at darren@dsgphoto.com. Tell him I sent you!

All photos via DSG Photography

This Weekend's Trunk Shows - Toronto

2010-03-04T08:00:00.000-05:00

White Toronto is hosting TWO trunk shows this weekend! Click on the image below for more details.

To see more form the Mark & James 2010 Bridal Collection, click here.

To see more from the Jenny Packham 2010 Bridal Collection, click here.

Tidbits from the Interwebs

2010-03-03T21:29:00.023-05:00

Sorry (in my Canadian accent) for the lack of creative posts lately. It's just been so hectic at work! In the meantime, here are a few links which you must check out!

1) Barbara Kua Calligraphy recently launched an online shop so now it's even easier to purchase their customized calligraphy stamps and sample calligraphy packs.

2) Toronto-based Sash & Bustle has also launched its E-Boutique. Items available to purchase through the E-Boutique include: veils, fascinators, bridesmaids gifts, bridal clutches and other wedding-related details.

3) My friend Michelle sent me this link to this amazing Mario Brothers' 8-bit video game wedding invitations. Check out the video below, and click on the above link to see photos of the paper invites!

4) After many weeks of suspenseful teasers, The Last Forty Percent Photography unveiled their brand new studio space overlooking the city. I love how modern it looks! I foresee LFP being bombarded with even more requests for boudoir sessions! To see more of their new space, click here.

5) Toronto Life magazine has posted select content from its Wedding Guide 2010 (on its website including a feature on Andrea Anastasiou, owner of White Toronto. Also check out Toronto Life's stunning wedding gown picks.

Don't forget to enter A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway - which has been extended to the end of Monday and is open to anyone planning an event (doesn't have to be a wedding). Note that the contest is now open to those outside of Toronto.

Chic Bridesmaid Event - Greater Toronto Area

2010-03-02T17:00:00.000-05:00

Ginger's Closet is the sister bridesmaid store to Pearl's Bridal House. Housing the latest collections from Amsale, Melissa Sweet and Priscilla of Boston, Ginger's Closet will be hosting a "Chic Bridesmaids" event this weekend.

WHEN?
Friday, March 5th to Sunday, March 7th by appointment

WHERE?
Ginger's Closet
62 Lakeshore Rd. East
Mississauga, ON L5G 1E1
905.278.4259
hello@gingerscloset.ca

A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway - Extended!

2010-03-02T11:12:00.004-05:00

Good news everyone! Alison and I have decided to extend the giveaway for another week! Also, we're opening up the giveaway to those outside of the Greater Toronto Area as Alison will provide the consultation via phone or Skype if need be! So to all my friends to the south of the border, enter now!

*Updated rules below.

What better way to get through the winter blahs than have a 2 hour consultation with Alison Kelly, Founder/Party Director of Toronto-based A Hot Pink Petticoat. This contest is open to anyone in the Greater Toronto Area who is in the midst of planning a killer party who would love someone to bounce their ideas off of. No strings attached!

So for those of you planning an event (does not have to be a wedding) in the GTA, or know of a friend who is, do not miss out on entering into this giveaway!

Here are the deets:

1) Leave a comment here telling me why you should win the free consultation session.

2) For an additional entry, follow A Hot Pink Petticoat on Twitter (http://twitter.com/HotPinkPetti) or leave a comment on Alison's blog at ahotpinkpetticoat.blogspot.com. Be sure to leave me a comment here that you've done so.

3) Maximum 2 entries per person. Contest ends Monday, March 8th at 11:59PM EST.

4) I'll announce the Winner on the following Wednesday.

5) Open to those who reside/planning an event (e.g. wedding, anniversary party, elopement). If the winner is within the GTA, the consultation will be in person. If the winner is outside the GTA, the consultation will be via phone or Skype.

To learn more about A Hot Pink Petticoat, who recently won a 2010 Bride's Choice Award, check out my interview last year with Alison.

Good Luck!!

Olympic Withdrawal

2010-03-02T09:00:00.000-05:00

Ryan Remiorz/Canadian Press via CBC.ca

Me 1, BF 0.

Did you watch the game of all games? 16.6 million Canadians did! The BF and I, along with some friends, congregated around my beautiful flat screen TV to cheer Canada (and the U.S. on). For us Canadians, we HAD to win. After all, it's our game, our home ice, and our ladies had already taken gold two days earlier. Most of all, it was redemption for that shocking loss last Sunday (when I outed the BF as an American at a pub full of angry Canadians). The first goal was brilliant and I totally take credit for it because it was at the exact moment that I had asked the BF to get more lime juice for the guac. Needless to say, the BF did not get lime juice for me again. The second goal made me jump up with glee while the BF huffed and puffed. As the last minute started to tick away on the clock, I prematurely, in my head, started celebrating. Bad idea. Very bad. With 24.4 seconds left, the gold just within our reach, Parise scored. The BF jumped up, and I swore, over and over again at the TV. WTF. Overtime. Sudden death. Crap. Time to start pacing. Honestly, those were THE most stressful minutes of my life. Luckily, Sid the Kid put me out of my misery and scored the winning goal. Thank you Team Canada!

AP Photo/Francois Mori via CBC.ca

For the last two weeks, I've been a skilled coach potato, moguls-speed skating(both long and short track)-figure skating-snow boarding-judge. I cried when Joannie Rochette won her bronze medal, four days after her mother died. I cringed when Lindsey Vonn fell. I marveled at Shaun White's performance. The closing ceremonies started off a bit like High School Musical but ended with some great performances by Neil Young, Nickelback and Alanis Morisette (how great did she look!!) I especially loved the tongue-in-cheek, Vegas style number with Michael Buble. Every Canadian stereotype was paraded into the BC Place, from gigantic inflatable beavers to dozens of dancing Mounties. See world, we can poke fun of ourselves and still be proud to be Canadian!!! Hope you enjoyed the Vancouver Games. Come back soon, eh. :)

Robert Skinner/Canadian Press via CBC.ca

Did you have a favourite Olympic moment?

Don't Forget....

2010-02-28T09:45:00.002-05:00

to enter A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway!!!

So for those of you planning an event (does not have to be a wedding) in the GTA, or know of a friend who is, do not miss out on entering into this giveaway!

Here are the deets:

1) Leave a comment here telling me why you should win the free consultation session.

2) For an additional entry, follow A Hot Pink Petticoat on Twitter (http://twitter.com/HotPinkPetti) or leave a comment on Alison's blog at ahotpinkpetticoat.blogspot.com. Be sure to leave me a comment here that you've done so.

3) Maximum 2 entries per person. Contest ends Monday, March 1st at 11:59PM EST.

4) I'll announce the Winner on the following Wednesday.

5) Open to those who reside/planning an event (e.g. wedding, anniversary party, elopement) in the Greater Toronto Area.

To learn more about A Hot Pink Petticoat, who recently won a 2010 Bride's Choice Award, check out my interview last year with Alison.

Good Luck!!

Reem Acra Trunk Show - White Toronto

2010-02-25T14:51:00.007-05:00

Sorry for the late notice on this one! If you're on the hunt for the perfect gown (or want to chase away the February blahs!), check out the Reem Acra trunk show this weekend.

via Reem Acra

WHEN?
Saturday, February 27th & Sunday, February 28th by appointment

WHERE?
White Toronto (www.whitetoronto.com)
19 Hazelton Avenue, Toronto, ON. M5R 2E1
Tel: 416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see the latest Reem Acra Bridal collection, visit www.reemacra.com

Divine Wedding Venues

2010-02-24T09:13:00.000-05:00

via Kevin Lam Photography

How stunning is this church? While many couples choose to marry in churches, temples, synagogues, and other religious institutions, not many couples have the privilege of marrying in a grand, stained glassed-filled historical church like this one - the Timothy Eaton Memorial Church. I know many couples who forgo the familiar nature of their regular church/synagogue in favour of a church/synagogue that is more grand or ornate, i.e. more apropos for a wedding. For those of you who were or will be married in a religious institution, how did you decide on your venue?

* To see more from this wedding, visit by Kevin Lam Photography
** Don't forget to enter "A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway"!!!!!!

Banana Republic After Five Event

2010-02-23T14:38:00.002-05:00

NOTE: In-store event at US stores only

Christos Trunk Show - Greater Toronto Area

2010-02-23T00:00:00.004-05:00

WHEN?
Saturday, December 5th by appointment

WHERE?
Pearl Bridal House
76 Lakeshore Rd. East
Mississauga, ON L5G 1E1
905.278.5407
hello@pearlbridalhouse.com
www.pearlbridalhouse.com

To see the latest Christos collection, visit www.christosbridal.com.

*Don't forget to enter the A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway!

A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway

2010-02-22T11:00:00.000-05:00

Happy Monday! Did you watch the Canada vs. USA hockey last night? The BF and I watched at a nearby Irish pub. The BF is a good ol' SoCal boy, doesn't know much about the great Canadian sport. However, since it's the Olympics, and his country is playing against my country, well, let's just say he got very animated. I called the US's first goal 'lucky.' Their second goal, I swore very loudly. By the 3rd goal, I sold out the BF to a pub of angry Canadians - I pointed to him and declared very loudly, "He's AMERICAN!!!!!!!!!!" Lucky for the BF, he didn't get beat up. ;) Though I can tell you that I debated letting him sleep on the couch last night.

Anyways, let's get back to business, shall we? I'm super excited to announce our A Hot Pink Petticoat Giveaway. Intrigued? I'll let Alison, the mastermind behind this Toronto-based event planning company, tell you what A Hot Pink Petticoat is giving away.......

So for those of you planning an event (does not have to be a wedding) in the GTA, or know of a friend who is, do not miss out on entering into this giveaway!

Here are the deets:

1) Leave a comment here telling me why you should win the free consultation session.

2) For an additional entry, follow A Hot Pink Petticoat on Twitter (http://twitter.com/HotPinkPetti) or leave a comment on Alison's blog at ahotpinkpetticoat.blogspot.com. Be sure to leave me a comment here that you've done so.

3) Maximum 2 entries per person. Contest ends Monday, March 1st at 11:59PM EST.

4) I'll announce the Winner on the following Wednesday.

5) Open to those who reside/planning an event (e.g. wedding, anniversary party, elopement) in the Greater Toronto Area.

To learn more about A Hot Pink Petticoat, who recently won a 2010 Bride's Choice Award, check out my interview last year with Alison.

Good Luck!!

Katerina Bocci Trunk Show - Kleinburg, ON

2010-02-21T15:36:00.006-05:00

WHEN?
Monday, February 22 to Sunday, February 28 by appointment

WHERE?
10449 Islington Avenue
Kleinburg, ON L0J 1C0
(905) 893-8100
info@sutdiosposa.com
http://www.studiosposa.ca

To see the latest Katerina Bocci collection, visit www.katerinabocci.com.

Coming Up...

2010-02-20T09:36:00.003-05:00

Happy Weekend! The BF and I just inhaled homemade French toast and crispy bacon. I love Saturdays. I have a contest coming up next week and the above image is a hint of what's to come! So be sure to come back on Monday!

Carolina Herrera Spring 2010 Trunk show - Toronto

2010-02-17T15:11:00.000-05:00

With Love, From Toronto

2010-02-15T17:52:00.009-05:00

Last month, Style Me Pretty, featured this "Bohemian Romance" photo shoot styled by Toronto wedding planner Cynthia Martyn, with the assistance of a talented group of Toronto vendors. I love the colours - very apropos for a Valentine's Day themed wedding or engagement party. For those are you getting married in the Toronto area, this gives you an idea as to what this city's vendors can offer! To see more photos, visit Style Me Pretty or Cynthia Martyn's blog.

Concept Design & Styling: Cynthia Martyn Events Inc. www.cynthiamartyn.com
Photography: Mimmo+Naz www.mimmoandnaz.com
Cake & Sweet Table: Cake Opera Co. www.cakeoperaco.com
Stationery Design: Bella Invites www.bellainvites.com
Floral Design: Fuscia Designs www.fusciadesigns.ca
Vintage Gown: Cabaret Vintage www.cabaretvintage.com
Hair & Makeup Styling: Faces By Carla www.facesbycarla.com
Rentals: Chairman Mills www.chairmanmills.com
Linens & Chair Overlays: Susan Murray International www.susanmurray.com
Favor Boxes and Packaging: Liloo www.liloo.ca
Caramel Apples: Bruce Co. Nut & Fudge www.nutandfudge.com
Calligraphy: Calligraphy By Diane www.calligraphybydiane.com
Venue: Fermenting Cellar, The Distillery District, Toronto www.fermentingcellar.ca

President's Day Deals

2010-02-15T11:58:00.005-05:00

Happy President's Day! Over here in Ontario (and some other Canadian provinces), we have the day off due to Family Day. Who doesn't love a long weekend!! The BF and I are taking easy, watching the Olympic coverage and then later on will be joining my family for Chinese New Year celebrations. Enjoy your day off!

Banana Republic

50% of Magazines at Amazon.com

Thanks to Very Married for the tip on this. Very Married is starting to do recaps of her December wedding. Go on over to check her out!

Kenneth Pool Trunk Show - GTA

2010-02-15T00:00:00.000-05:00

via Kenneth Pool

WHEN?
Thursday, February 18 to Sunday, February 21 by appointment

WHERE?
Pearl Bridal House
76 Lakeshore Rd. East
Mississauga, ON L5G 1E1
905.278.5407
hello@pearlbridalhouse.com
www.pearlbridalhouse.com

To see the latest Kenneth Pool collection, visit www.kennethpool.com.

Year of the Tiger

2010-02-14T12:32:00.005-05:00

Happy New Year to those welcoming in the Year of the Tiger! The tiger is the king of the animals in Chinese culture, and is the move revered amongst the 12 animals in Chinese zodiac. This year is to be a year of "grand beginnings and new directions." The BF and I will be having an epic feast with my family and I'm ready to collect my "lucky money" (in red envelopes). Note that only single people can collect "lucky money." Once you're married, you start passing out the "lucky money" - a fact I remind my married younger sister all the time. ;)

And of course, Happy Valentine's Day to all! Especially to the BF.

Who's Got Olympic Spirit?

2010-02-12T12:50:00.004-05:00

I do! I love the Olympics. I'm not sporty in any kind of way (unless you consider napping a sport, in which case I would be the gold medalist) but I love watching the Games. This year, us Canadians, are hosting! Kasia Fink (aka Mrs. Sea Breeze) a fellow Canadian blogger and proprietress of Kasia Fink Veils will be participating in tonight's opening ceremonies and she's been blogging about the rehearsal over the last few months - go check out her blog.

So the big question remains - who's going to light cauldron? Some say it will be "The Great One." Some say it might be a hologram of the late Terry Fox. I love the fact that we won't know until tonight!

The BF is on his way to Toronto as we speak so I'm doubly excited! He has no idea that for the next 2 weeks I'll be glued to the TV cheering on Canadian competing in sports that I would never dare to try!!

Will you be watching the opening ceremonies?

Cutest Cake Topper Ever

2010-02-10T09:38:00.001-05:00

via Kevin Lam Photography

I saw this adorable cake topper on Toronto photographer Kevin Lam's blog the other day and had to share. I've never seen anything so fun! To see how true the resemblance of the cake topper is to the bride and groom, click here.

Before becoming "The Professional Bridesmaid," I had no idea the vast variety of cake toppers out there. Are you a fan of the cake topper? What are you having/did have as your cake topper?

*Update: The cake topper was made by a friend of the couple's!

Amsale Trunk Show - Greater Toronto Area

2010-02-08T09:00:00.000-05:00

via Amsale

WHEN?
Saturday, February 13th by appointment

WHERE?
Pearl Bridal House
76 Lakeshore Rd. East
Mississauga, ON L5G 1E1
905.278.5407
hello@pearlbridalhouse.com
www.pearlbridalhouse.com

To see the latest Amsale collection, visit www.amsale.com.

Tara Keely Trunk Show - Vancouver

2010-02-07T14:00:00.002-05:00

via Tara Keely

WHEN?
Thursday, February 11th and Sunday, February 14th
10am-6pm

WHERE?
Bisou Bridal
440-West 2nd Avenue
Vancouver BC V5Y 1E2
Tel: 604.696.0880/ info@bisoubridal.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see Tara Keely's collection, visit www.tarakeely.com.

Frugal Friday (Saturday Edition)

2010-02-06T10:40:00.003-05:00

Click to print this coupon for Chapters-Indigo-Coles

Banana Republic - US only

Do You Drink Your Milk Out of A Bag?

2010-02-05T00:00:00.000-05:00

I do. Well, I used to when I lived with my family. You see, in some parts of Canada, including my province of Ontario, milk comes in bags, not jugs. We have cartons of milk but if you want to go 'family size', you'll have to resort to buying 'bags' of milk. Check out this article in the Toronto Star and the below video if you don't believe me. As noted in the Toronto Star article, bags take up less space, are easier to transport, use less plastic than jugs, and on average, milk in a bag actually costs less than the comparable amount of milk in a carton. Milk in a Bag - weird? Perhaps. Environmentally friendly and economically economically conscious? Totally, eh?! Happy Friday.

So we drink milk out of bags. Does that make us weird? - thestar.com

Help! Which one?

2010-02-04T12:17:00.005-05:00

Bonjour! I desperately need a new wallet, and I've been shopping for months. Help me decide between the two!

1) Cole Haan Felicity Slim Zip Wallet

2) MICHAEL Michael Kors Continental Wallet

Right now, I'm leaning towards the Cole Haan.

Am I the only one who agonizes over a wallet purchase?

Best Dressed at the Grammys

2010-02-01T23:33:00.005-05:00

The Grammys is touted as 'the biggest event' in the industry I work in. Unfortunately, the last few years, it's been a bit lackluster. Every year I say I'm not going to watch but every year I tune in, just so I'm lost during the water cooler conversations at work the next day. I tuned in Sunday night, on breaks from Brothers & Sisters (love that show). Here's a quick summary of my thoughts:

-Lady GaGa rocks - she can sing, she can write, she can design, and she can truly ENTERTAIN
-Pink sang upside down, twirling from a piece of fabric, all in a wet, nude body suit. Need I say more?
- Beyonce covering Alanis. Awesome.
- Oh Taylor Swift. Yes, she's America's sweetheart. And yes she can song write (which many top selling artists can't do), but she can't sing. Well, she can sing, but off-key.
- Didn't understand Jamie Foxx's performance though it was cool to see Slash.
-Taylor Swift won over GaGa? WTF.

The one thing I do love about the Grammys is the fashion. It's less about elegance and old Hollywood, and more about funky, outrageous and avant garde.

My favourite of the evening - Rihanna. Fun, flirty and feathery. Love it.

Who's outfit was your favourite?

Kirstie Kelly Trunk Show

2010-02-01T22:00:00.000-05:00

via Kirstie Kelly for Disney

When?
Wednesday, February 5 to Sunday, February 7 (11am-4pm)

Where?
Sposa Italia
4040 Steeles Avenue West, Suite 5,
Woodbridge, ON
905.856.5556 or 1-877-SPOSA 01 (766.7201)
sales@sposaitalia.com

To see more of Kirstie Kelly for Disney's collection, click here.

A Friday the 13th "I Do" - Part Deux

2010-01-31T17:33:00.000-05:00

Part I- Jessica and Nick's Wedding

Hope you are enjoying your Sunday! Let's continue with Jessica and Nick's Friday the 13th wedding.

Both the ceremony and reception took place at Bellamere Winery in London, ON. The rustic feel of the winery was the perfect venue for this unconventional couple.

Instead of wearing a veil, Jessica decided to wear a long, black cape made by Nick's godmother. She proceeded down the aisle with her father to "Nothing Else Matters" by Metallica covered by Apocalyptica.

courtesy of Jessica

The ceremony, which Jessica and Nick wrote themselves, took place in one of the winery's buildings.

via The Last Forty Percent

Once they were married, the bride and groom walked down the aisle together to "Right Here In My Arms" by HIM.via The Last Forty Percent

Jessica DIYed a lot of the decor including the dogwood table centrepieces. She also designed and made all the paper goods, including the invitations and place cards. In lieu of guest favours, Jessica and Nick made a donation in memory of Nick's father to the Canadian Cancer Society. Guests were encouraged to take a Together.Strong wristband to honour those touched by cancer.

via The Last Forty Percent

Jessica was kind enough to share some 'behind the scenes' details........

How amazing is this card box? Unable to find something that suited her taste, Jessica decided to DIY a card box herself.

courtesy of Jessica

Nick designed Jessica's engagement ring and wedding band. Check out the black diamonds in her band.

courtesy of Jessica

Jessica also made her bridesmaids' jewelery -beaded drop earrings with matching necklaces.

courtesy of Jessica

A month to the day before Nick proposed, both Jessica and Nick each got infinity symbol tattoos on to symbolize their commitment to each other. They used this same symbol on their invites.

courtesy of Jessica

Congratulations Jessica and Nick. Thank you for sharing your wedding with us and showing us that 'strange' may be different but if you stay true to yourself, you're guarantee an awesome time.

*A special thanks to The Last Forty Percent.

Lela Rose Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-01-30T15:36:00.008-05:00

via Lela Rose

WHEN?
Friday, February 5th and Saturday, February 6th
10am-6pm

WHERE?
White Toronto (www.whitetoronto.com)
19 Hazelton Avenue, Toronto, ON. M5R 2E1
Tel: 416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see Lela Rose's collection, visit www.lelarose.com.

A Friday the 13th "I Do" - Jessica and Nick

2010-01-28T12:00:00.004-05:00

"There were black and white striped stockings. A black cape. Leather flowers. Black eyeliner. And black and white pinstriped boots. It wasn’t traditional. It wasn’t the norm. But it was perfectly them. It was the story of Jessica and Nick. Exactly as they wanted to tell it."

I don't think I could describe Jessica and Nick's wedding any better than Brianna (of The Last Forty Percent Photography) already has. When LFP posted photos from this funky wedding earlier this week, I immediately contacted Brianna to see if I could re-post the pics. I even bugged Brianna into passing along questions to Jessica. (Thanks Brianna!). Lucky for you and I, Jessica graciously answered my many questions and even provided more photo candy from her 'unusual' Friday the 13th wedding.

You're probably wondering why Jessica and Nick picked Friday the 13th. Jessica tells me there were a few reasons why they wed on such na "ominous'" date. 1) During their first year of dating, in lieu of celebrating their first Valentine's Day together, Jessica and Nick, neither believers in the 'Hallmark' holiday, decided to celebrate the Friday, February 13th instead. 2) Jessica found amazing vendor discounts for a Friday in November (both an 'off' day and an 'off' month for weddings in Ontario, Canada) and surprise, surprise, there weren't a lot of other couples sealing the deal on their selected date. 3) Jessica and Nick wanted throw an event that none of their families and friends had seen before, and that 'strange' can be fun. So this is how Jessica and Nick ended throwing a Victorian/Gothic/Rock n' Roll inspired-wedding on Friday the 13th.

Getting Ready

If you haven't figured it out already, Jessica isn't your typical bride. She may have donned a white wedding gown on her big day but she made sure there were bursts of her personality peeking through, such as her striped stockings and matching platform shoes. Not totally satisfied with her wedding gown, Jessica had the original sash removed and replaced with a black one adorned with a brooch she had found.

Not wanting to spend money on fresh flowers that would eventually die, and looking for a way to incorporate leather into her ensemble, Jessica turned to The English Rose Company in the UK to create this amazing leather rose bouquet. A matching boutonniere was also made for Nick.

The First Look

Ewan Phelan is a genius for perfectly capturing these below intimate moments.

The Bridal Party

Stay tuned for photos from Jessica and Nick's ceremony & reception at Bellamere Winery (London, Ontario) as well as some 'behind the scenes' photos from Jessica herself!

All photos by The Last Forty Percent Photography

Watters Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-01-27T16:39:00.002-05:00

It seems like there a whole slew of trunk shows and sales are going on this weekend! For those of you who have been coveting a Watters gown, you might want to see if you can score a deal at their trunk show.

via Watters

WHEN?
Friday, January 30 & Saturday, January 31

WHERE?
Felichia Bridal
2587 Yonge St.
Toronto, Ontario Canada
M4P 2J1
647 - 350 - 5559
email: info@felichia.com
www.felichia.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see more from the Watters collection, visit www.watters.com.

McCaffrey Haute Couture Sample Sale - Toronto

2010-01-26T10:00:00.002-05:00

WHEN?
Friday, January 29th to Saturday, January 30th
10AM to 6PM

WHERE?
McCaffrey Haute Couture Boutique
114 Cumberland St. Suite 200 (Yorkville)
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
416 928-1334/ torontoretail@mccaffreyhautecouture.com
www.mccaffreyhautecouture.com
Visa, MasterCard, Debit or Cash will only be accepted during this sale.

FYI - Justina McCaffrey is no longer affiliated with McCaffrey Haute Couture. Justina now heads up her own eponymous label at www.justinamccaffrey.com. For the full 411 on this split , click here.

I wish I was....

2010-01-25T10:16:00.003-05:00

Diane Kruger so I could wear this dress and have "Pacey" on my arm (BF - just make believe!) Not many people can pull off 'mustard', let alone pull if off with such style. This would totally rock as a Hollywood glam wedding gown in white or champagne. Did you have a favourite dress from the SAG awards?

via Popsugar

Happy Monday!

Bridechka is Getting Married!!

2010-01-24T13:19:00.002-05:00

A big, hearty Mazel Tov to Bridechka as she and the Big Guy walk down the aisle today. Bridechka, thanks for taking us along for the ride. Have a frakkin' fabulous time! Be sure to check out the recaps on her Jewish/Russian wedding in NYC on her blog and on Wedzilla!

Stephanie James Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-01-23T14:38:00.000-05:00

Back in December, I attended the grand opening soiree of Sash & Bustle, Toronto's latest arrival to the bridal scene. Described as a "modern bridal loft" by its owner Cynthia Martyn (who is already known as one of Toronto's foremost wedding planners), Sash & Bustle houses chic bridesmaid dresses and bridal gown alternatives. Sash & Bustle is not like any other bridal salon I have been to (and I've been to A LOT). Located in the Garment Factory Lofts building, this industrial yet inviting boutique is filled with white modern furniture, crystal chandeliers, elegant bridal accessories, and of course colourful bridesmaids dress! At the back of Sash & Bustle, hang the 'bridal alternatives.' Think non-traditional, non-poufy, non-blingy, no superlong train but still fun, elegant and chic. One of Sash & Bustle's 'bridal alternative' collections is that of Stephanie James Couture. Stephanie James is based in Hungtingon Beach, CA and is known for her flirty, vintage-inspired and unique bridal gowns.

via Stephanie James Couture

For those of you north of the border, Sash & Bustle is the only retailer in Canada who carries Stephanie James Couture! Even more exciting is that Sash & Bustle will be hosting a Stephanie James trunk show next weekend (Friday, January 29th - Sunday, January 31st), and Stephanie James will be there in person to consult with brides. Cynthia tells me that Saturday is completely booked but there are still appointments for Friday and Sunday. So if you're looking for a gown that is unlike anything you've see out there already, be sure to check out Stephanie James' trunk show.

Sash & Bustle
233 Carlaw Avenue, Unit 2
Toronto, Ontario
M4M 3N6
hello@sashandbustle.com
www.sashandbustle.com

Anne Barge Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-01-22T10:38:00.005-05:00

via Anne Barge

WHEN?
Friday, January 29th and Saturday, January 30th

WHERE?
White Toronto (www.whitetoronto.com)
19 Hazelton Avenue, Toronto, ON. M5R 2E1
Tel: 416 849 9196 / info@whitetoronto.com
Call to make an appointment.

To see Anne Barge's collection, visit www.annebarge.com.

Maggie Sottero Trunk Show - Toronto

2010-01-21T20:42:00.005-05:00

Maggie Sottero via Brides.com

When?
Wednesday, January 27 to Sunday January 31

Where?
Ritché Bridal
1662 Avenue Road
Toronto
416-789-4378

To see more of Maggie Sottero's collection, click here.

All about the Flu...

2010-01-18T17:51:00.003-05:00

See what happens when I leave the West Coast? I get hit by the flu. Not fun. I seriously felt like I got hit by a truck. I came back to work from vacation for 2 days and then preceded to take 2 sick days. Ughhh. I felt so ill that I actually went home to my parents. Sometimes all you need is your mommy, even when you're in your thirties. hehehe. I did manage to watch the Golden Globes last night. My favourite dress from the night is that of Emily Blunt. Soft, frilly and feminine. Love it!

via Popsugar

Which dress did you covet?

The Wedding Show - This Weekend - Toronto

2010-01-13T19:43:00.008-05:00

The Wedding Co. hosted its first boutique-style wedding show, The Wedding Show, eight years ago, focusing on uniting brides with unique wedding vendors. The Wedding Co. continues to host it annual show this weekend, exhibiting the goods and services of 115 hand selected wedding vendors. My favourite calligrapher, Barbara Kua Calligraphy, was selected to participate so be sure to check her (and many other exhibitors) out!

via The Wedding Co.

Date: January 15-17, 2010
Where: The Carlu, 444 Yonge Street, 7th floor
Map & Directions
Times: Friday, January 15, 5-9pm
Saturday, January 16, 10am-6pm
Sunday, January 17, 10am-5pm
Cost: $20.00 (Receive a $3.00 voucher by subscribing to The Wedding Co.'s weekly newsletter)

Ritche Super Sale - Toronto

2010-01-09T13:08:00.001-05:00

Banana Republic - 20% off - Today ONLY

2010-01-07T14:08:00.003-05:00

Last night, I hit up 3rd Street Promenade in Santa Monica with my Banana Republic 40% off coupon (the week before they were handing out 'give back' coupons when you made a purchase). Well ladies, I scored one of the best deals ever!!! I bought this lovely leather jacket at 40% off!! The leather feels like buttah.

Anyways, if you're a Banana Republic online shopper, check out today's deal! Happy Shopping.

Brekkie in the O.C. with Pink Argyle

2010-01-06T12:00:00.000-05:00

Greetings from La La land! While most of you have already headed back to work or school, I'm luckily enough to be in week 2 of my vacay. Sigh. Life is good. Did I mention it's been sunny and warm?! The BF and I have been pretty busy seeing friends, family and not to mention throwing a New Year's Eve party! This past weekend, the BF, being the good BF he is, drove me to Laguna Hills to meet Mo from Pink Argyle. Mo and I had pondered where exactly to meet since she's in San Deigo, and I'm in LA. Luckily, someone on Chowhound had already posed the question and in response, the Break of Dawn was recommended. Now this was the second time I had met someone through my blog, the first being Jess from JessReads whom I met at the Sash & Bustle opening. With Jess, neither of us knew what we looked like, we just knew each other's names and we both live in Toronto - akin to a 'blind friend date.' With Mo, it was a bit different since we've gotten to know each other through our blogs and have even exchanged emails. In other words, I really feel like I know Mo.....even though we had never met. Oh how technology brings us all together! Mo and I (and the BF aka my chauffeur) had a great time chatting. It was really like seeing an old friend I hadn't seen in awhile. Mo and I discovered we had a lot in common....we are both of Asian descent, we both have 2 sisters, we are both wedding bloggers and we both have ex-boyfriends who became 'mystics' in exotic countries (long stories).

In addition to the great conversation, we chowed down on some delicious breakfast. I had the Potato Skillet.

And the BF had the yummy omelet.

In you live in the O.C., I highly recommend Break of Dawn. Thanks Mo for a great time!

Have you met your 'blogger friends'? What was it like?

White Toronto Bridesmaid Promotion

2010-01-04T01:58:00.003-05:00

Happy New Year!!

2009-12-31T19:50:00.002-05:00

After a frantic day of nervous worrying about whether I would get into LA or not due to massive delays at Toronto's airport stemming from the new security measures, I landed at LAX 10 minutes early this past Monday. After not being allowed to do anything the last hour of the flight (no reading, no listening to my iPod, although we were allowed to watch movies on our entertainment system provided we only used the airline's earphones....???????), I was super excited to see The BF who greeted me with an iced coffee. Love it. An iced coffee in December. See what the cold does to you? Makes you appreciate the small, warm weather things. The BF and I are getting ready for our NYE shindig tonight. I'm looking forward to seeing all our friends and family. This weekend I will be meeting up with Mo from Pink Argyle. I can't wait to meet her! We're hoping to do a little eating in the O.C.

Wherever you are, I wish a very Happy New Year and an amazing blogging year.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

2009-12-24T22:03:00.002-05:00

Our 'condo tree'

Wishing all my blog friends a wonderful and happy holiday season! I'm off to LA next week ---- for 2 whole weeks! So excited.

Hope Santa is good to all of you.

And the Winners Are........

2009-12-21T20:39:00.019-05:00

CONGRATULATIONS to......

EbonStarr
"My favourite project so far was the veil,
which I made with pink satin edging to match the dress.

Kim
"We are getting married in June 2010 and the whole wedding is pretty much DIY. Our invitations were all handmade by myself and mother in law to be. Our center pieces are all handmade, right down to the embossed labels wrapped around the candles for the center pieces. We are even having the bridesmaids dresses handmade by my mother in law to be...she's pretty amazing. I tell people that the day I got engaged I gained a fiance, a beautiful ring and a wedding planner LOL"

BEL (And Stanley Makes Three)
"We're going to do a lot of DIY - I hope! Invites, programs, menus, wine labels, purses for my girls, gifts for our parents, etc.!"

If the winners could email me, theprofessionalbridesmaid@gmail.com, then I can put you in touch with JessReads who will mail your prizes. A huge thank you to Jess for sponsoring this contest! Be sure to follow Jess on Twitter.

If you're interested in purchasing The DIY Bride: The Crafty Countdown for yourself or for a friend, you can purchase it from my favourite bookstores/sites:

For those are you heading to Chapters.Indigo, click here for a 25% off coupon!